The Truth About Masturbation
- Admin
- Apr 9, 2017
- 3 min read
This week I felt led to discuss the topic of masturbation.
If you are unfamiliar with masturbation, masturbation is having sex with yourself, it’s self-gratification. Many people love the idea of masturbation because they feel as though because they are not being physically intimate with someone it’s okay. But in reality masturbation only decreases the intimacy between you and your partner.
Sex was created to be shared as an intimate moment between man and woman. It’s what solidifies the covenant between man and God. So now if you are going off and having that moment by yourself it then builds up a wall between you and your partner, because for the most intimate part of the relationship technically you wouldn’t need your partner you could just go off and satisfy yourself and replace your partner with now just a thought in your head. And then it brings the question what are you thinking about while your masturbating? another woman? another man? the porn star? You're creating a fantasy world in your head that then puts false expectations on your partner to try to compete or compare with the fantasy thoughts in your head. Nothing your partner does will ever seem good enough because now their not enough. And just to be clear the text says that even if you look at a woman lustfully you have already committed adultery in your heart (Matthew 5:28). Your thoughts are powerful! Thats why it's important we learn how to control them.
And if you are in a relationship/marriage your partner should be the only one who should be satisfying your needs. When needs are not being met or you're looking to people outside of the relationship to satisfy those needs you are now opening the doors for infidelity.
If you are looking to have a healthy relationship building intimacy is important. And if you're looking to improve your intimacy with your partner I suggest saving those moments for you and your partner alone. In a relationship you shouldn’t need anything else inside the bedroom besides you and your partner not even a thought. For that is true intimacy.
Here are three tips to help you build intimacy in your relationship:
You should not be looking to constantly please yourself in a relationship even when it comes to masturbation. Don not rob your partner of being able to completely be able to fully serve you.
Have opened communication. Talk to your partner about your needs and how to please you.
Intimacy is built between two people, you don’t want to build the habit of excluding your partner when it comes to the most intimate part of the relationship.
If you are struggling with masturbation give it to God. Pray and ask God to remove that desire from your heart.
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