Get Off the Emotional Roller Coaster!
- Admin
- Nov 27, 2016
- 3 min read
Emotional intelligence is knowing how to manage your emotions. We were created as emotional human beings. Especially us woman our moods are constantly changing one minute we are happy, next minute we are sad, and then tomorrow we have complete attitude. I've learned that knowing how to take control of your emotions can advance your personal relationships with your partner, in the work force, and your overall daily interactions with people.
Being able to manage your emotions is first being aware of your emotions when they arise and also recognizing emotions in others. This means you have to be in-tuned with yourself and aware of your surroundings.
Emotional growth is needed for you to reach your next level. You want to get to a place where we are not popping off at the mouth, or telling people off every time something does not go your way. There shouldn't be anything that doesn't come out our mouth that is not uplifting or encouraging to other people. The bible says “Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear. (Ephesians 4:29)”
It's ungodly to keep tearing people down with your words just because your upset. We want to get to a place where we don't do things based on whether or not we feel like it but because it's the right thing to do. For example: If you are married, seriously courting, engaged and your partner wants dinner everyday I'm sure out of the five-day week one of those days you are not going to feel like making dinner but guess what you make dinner based on your role you play in their life as a wife or significant other not based on how you feel. Our feelings change constantly and do not make for a good foundation in any relationship.
If you are in a confrontation with someone ask yourself are we arguing to get our point across or to find a solution? You want to communicate to find a solution to the problem not to prove you are right. Emotional intelligence takes maturity and growth. Don’t allow others to have power over you by controlling how you respond to situations. Take back your power and take control of your emotions.
Here are five tips to help you manage your emotions:
When you are in a heated situation do not respond right away. Take a minute to calm down and collect your thoughts. This may mean sleep on it and revisit again the next day. This allows you to really think about the root of the issue so your speaking to uplift the root of the bad seed instead of adding water so it can grow.
Know your triggers. For example, if you drink and you know that alcohol heightens your emotions maybe you should reconsider drinking for the sake of your own personal growth and development.
Practice speaking life into people. Train your mind and your mouth to only speak positive things. It's very easy to tear somebody down but what purpose does that serve? Let's start taking the high road and learning how to keep our mouth shut if we don't have anything positive to say.
When you are upset take your frustrations and anger to God and let God handle how you should respond instead of your own messy and confrontational responses. We are his children go to him he is the only one who can heal you, and fix your problems. Let's stop taking our problems out on other people you’re not helping anyone or anybody but your own insecurities by doing so.
Mediate on the word of God. There are many other scriptures that speak on the tongue. Learn those scriptures and then make your emotions submit to the word of God.
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Thank You God for Progression,
Yours Truly,
Jordan Thorpe
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