Help! I want to look like BARBIE.

I was intrigued by a conversation I had last weekend over dinner about a surgery women get that involves a rib removal to have a flatter stomach and smaller waist. And my initial thought was wow! Are women today that insecure with themselves that they will remove a rib to look what society calls as “beautiful?” Not to mention people are getting breast implants, buttock injections, and wider hips just like going to the hair salon and getting their hair done. But instead of judging I figured I would try to understand and reflect back to a time where I could relate. Now before I go further in depth I would like to mention that I am all for woman feeling good about themselves but let’s make sure it’s for the right reasons.

Here is the thing If you are spending thousands of dollars on improving your outer appearance all because you need to feel better about yourself there is a deeper rooted issue at hand. First I would like to remind you that we were all created in God’s perfect image with a purpose and a plan. The scriptures say that we are fearfully and wonderfully made. We are Gods workmanship, his craftsmanship, and his masterpiece. Fixing your outer self because you want to look more of someone else or what society tells you you should look like is basically saying “Sorry God your creation was not good enough so I need to go ahead and take things into my own hands.”

I’ve found that the deeper rooted issues are insecurity. If you feel like you need a bigger butt a small waist and breast implants to make you feel better about yourself, you should think about digging deeper within yourself and figure out the root of the issue. Is it because the girl with all the surgical work is getting all the attention and you need the same attention because she looks as though she’s so called “winning” and you’re not?

Well let me share something with you. You don’t want a man to be with you because of your body. But because he has a connection with your spirit. If you are wondering why things are not working out in your personal relationships it could be because you attract what you are. If all you have to offer is your outer appearance then your going to attract guys who only like your physical attributes. For example for a long time I only attracted guys who only dated girls with natural long hair. But when the next girl came with longer hair he was attracted to her too which made me feel insecure.

Today I no longer have long black hair but short blonde hair and decided to work on my inner-self and feel more secure today than I have ever felt before. If the man is only attracted to your outer body appearance that is not love that is lust! Know the difference. The man that you are supposed to be with, the man who God created for you will recognize your spirit. It will be familiar to him. There will be a sense of knowing. We need to spend more time working on our inner selves. What’s inside your heart? How can God send you a mate and your jealous of everyone of your friends who are in a relationship or getting married. Your heart needs to look like God and be a reflection of God’s spirit and then your spirit will then attract other spirits who reflect God’s spirit. It’s your spirit that connects you to a person and you love that person because that is who God created for you.

There is nothing wrong with grooming yourself ,getting hair, and make up done. I believe in that and I believe that you should take care of your body, eat well, and exercise. But let’s have beautiful insides to match our beautiful outsides.

Here are three tips that helped me work on my inner-self

1. Know that God has a plan and purpose for you that goes far beyond how you look.

2. If a man can not see you for who you really are. He’s not the one for you.

3. Practice the fruits of the spirt in your daily lives. The fruits of the spirt are attributes that reflect a Godly spirit. Love, Joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self control. After all you do want to attract a man that has self control. He will need that once temptation arises.

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Yours Truly,

Jordan Thorpe

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